Mar 9, 2010

My Dina


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I got this from Facebook. It was on a friend's status and I decided to share it.

We are not the bestest friend at home. Why ? 

Personally, she always get the most scolding (simply because we expect high of her though she's only 9), she is constantly required to watch over her little brothers (especially Abil) and everytime there is a fight between her and the other two heroes, we always ask her to 'back off' and give way to her brothers. Also, whenever there are incidents involving the children, she always get the blame even when it was not actually her fault (yes, because she's the ELDEST).

When I look into the mirror, I actually 'see' my daughter. Yes, she is my MINI version. Physical wise, she resembles most of her father's cute features (I have to admit that I sometimes feel a bit irritated when people say that she looks exactly like daddy but hey, as much as I hated it...the bottom line is, she's one cute lady and she's MY daughter).

Personality wise, her impatience and highly sensitive emotions are actually inherited from no other than her own mother....yes, that's me! So, whenever she gets scolded (be it from me, daddy or others), I actually feel sorry for her. I also pity her for the GREAT responsibility that she carries, being a sister to an autistic brother. FYI, being a sister to an autistic siblings is just as difficult and as challenging as being a mother to an autistic child.

It is NOT easy (for a young child) to accept the fact that the mummy cannot give them ALL the attention they demanded because she has to attend more to their special-needs brother. It is also NOT easy for them to know that the parents must always give their utmost priority to the special-needs sibling. It is even more difficult for them to understand that their 'special' sibling cannot play/communicate with them as normal kids do.

Nonetheless, Kak Dina has grown far beyond her real age. I RESPECT her maturity and her acceptance towards her brother. She is always there for Abil all these years (though it was hard for her when she was younger) and I hope that she ALWAYS will.Ameen.



6 comments:

keen said...

amin, no worries kak dina..u alway got mokde :D n we are so proud of u!

Jen Netto said...

I hope you and your girl find a balance at home to help you have a relationship with her. She will need it in time to come. As her age is still small, she hasn't reached a point of retaliation so build that bridge quick so that the next years ahead would be smooth sailing. The eldest child is always a GEM to their mums, and I am so proud of you for being a great mum to your children. All the best Syahida! and God bless you and keep you and your family well.

ja amran said...

aku setuju ngan ko syida, anak sulung kdg2 bernasib malang sebab kita letak mostly all responsibilities and sometimes all the blame on them if anything happen kat adik2... sian... but sometimes bila tgh marah terlupa, dah lepas tu baru menyesal...

aku nak copy and wat entry ni gak eh?! eheheh...

Syahida said...

keen-> when i'm not around i know i can always count on u...hehe
jen-> thanx for the advice..will plan for the bridge building ASAP...thank u again for reminding me :-)
Mek Ja-> go ahead, copy jangan tak copy! :D

PPKI SK Taman Bunga Raya 1 said...

Suddenly, through birthing a daughter, a woman finds herself face to face not only with an infant, a little girl, a woman-to-be, but also with her own unresolved conflicts from the past and her hopes and dreams for the future.... As though experiencing an earthquake, mothers of daughters may find their lives shifted, their deep feelings unearthed, the balance struck in all relationships once again off kilter...

Syahida said...

PPKI SKTB1---> thanx for the inspiring words :-)